Emma1298 Posted September 16, 2020 Report Share Posted September 16, 2020 Hi all Wondering how long it should take to get a sponsor? Husband still doesn't have one after 6 weeks, and I'm fed up with the excuses and reasons as to why he doesn't. He's been excusing his lack of action in many areas for years. I want to know if I'm being unreasonable, if it really is that hard to get a sponsor for sex addiction, or is he excusing away his lack of action again. Thanks all 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firefly Posted September 16, 2020 Report Share Posted September 16, 2020 Hi Emma, Welcome to the Forum. Very sorry to hear how you are feeling. Has your husband attended any 12 step, 8 week course or 1 to 1 sessions? Look after yourself. Firefly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IamEnough Posted September 20, 2020 Report Share Posted September 20, 2020 Hi Emma 1298 I’m no expert, being fairly new to this myself , but I have recently been reading some literature from Sanon.org, the partner’s arm of the 12 step programme , and my understanding is that it can take a while to find a sponsor. It might help you to find other sources of ‘evidence of commitment to recovery’ , as Firefly says, maybe an online recovery programme (see the Laurel centre website) or a 12 step programme (SAuk.org)? my husband has completed the basic recovery programme and the group he was in is keeping in touch and holding each other accountable and that is a huge relief and support to him and to me. hope that helps x 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted September 28, 2020 Report Share Posted September 28, 2020 Hi Emma, I'm new to this forum too, but hopefully can give you a little comfort. My husband went on a 12 step programme and did one meeting a week as well as several weekly phone calls. Even though he was fully committed it took him two or three months to get a sponsor.. Apparently sponsors want to know you are serious about recovery. As long as he is working on his steps I think that is what's important. Look after yourself. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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