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I'm so glad I've been able to find this site.  I now realise that I've been suffering from an increasing addiction to porn and internet chat for about 15 years.  I wonder if any other men feel, as I do, that my addiction is purely down to the invention of the internet  -  and not only that, an internet connection that is now fast enough to watch and share video/pictures very very easily.

Before I had broadband in my home I had a couple of porn mags in a cupboard which I looked at from time to time  -  and I masturbated regularly, like twice a day maybe, but this was mainly to my own "thoughts" and took next to no time.  And that's the point  -  the biggest problem for me is that my internet porn/chat addiction robs me of TIME  -  our most precious commodity.  My life and my success is slowly slipping away.

I am bisexual but mostly view straight porn and share this and chat with other straight/bi men online.  I think this problem is a huge pandemic problem which isn't even talked about in society.  I think that there a literally thousands and thousands of married men, like me, spending huge amounts of time online without their wives' knowledge.  Everybody talks about the danger of internet porn to children  -  but not to adults.  I think that this could eventually become a big story in the press  -  but not anytime soon and not before it has had a huge effect on society.

I don't yet know how I'm going to quit.  I'm struggling everyday.  I wish I could go back to childhood in a way, before I had any sexual desire at all  -  days seemed so long and I was able to focus in a single minded way on the things I wanted to do.  Maybe I need to stop using a computer except in public cafes? (I do need to correspond by email for work etc).  I think  that the computer is, for me, the key.

If anyone has any thoughts on this, I'd be very glad of advice.  


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Hi Simon,

Firstly it takes courage to post on a forum and say you are struggling with porn addiction.   We are finding lots of men and women who are struggling to stop looking at porn and feel it is an addiction.  As you say, porn is very easy to find, it is often free and limitless variety.  As Anon555 suggests, finding a 12 step programme near you, will help you realise you are not on your own.  There is SA, SAA and SLAA groups.   The Laurel Centre also offers a counselling service.  The counsellors can help you understand what your triggers are, find tools to help stop the behaviour and to support you in your recovery.    You can either ring them up, email or use the little pop up box in the corner of the website.  

Kind Regards,



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