Report Somebody give me a positive story in Partner Concerns Posted August 5, 2021 We’re 10 months in, no sexual relapses but my partner has such huge behavioural issues. He’s used various methods to self sooth since he was a teen so this is a long road he’s lived with this addiction and others. I just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel as apart from being clean of his addiction all of his other traits that are around the addiction are still there. He doesn’t work on them but says he will, we’ve had counselling individual and partner - and he never works on the stuff we’re set. I feel like I’m living Groundhog Day and I work so hard at this and he doesn’t. Am I being unreasonable to ask so much of him? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? I’m so stressed and panicky and I’ve lived my whole life being happy and strong - this is ruining me.