Tom27

Hi, I hope this helps, so I’d like to give my experience. Sadly, my experience mirrors your husband’s. That’s where I’ve been for most of my life and, at the tender age of —well, mid-fifties — I’ve decided I need to change. I’ve caused a lot of wreck lags in my time, but: I’m coming up on 3 months no porn, no masturbation (and to be sure, the rewiring process is a beast). So, to answer your titular question, yes it is possible to give up the addiction. It takes your husband to make the conscious decision, to realize he needs help, and to get to it. As to your other question, can you get over it? Well, I don’t know. You’re the only one who can sort that out. But you sound strong. And, as the other poster replies, none of this is about you. It’s all him. Addiction is a beast and I’m sorry you’re in its path. I think that, in that you’re here, that you’re searching for information and answers, well, that is a huge start. I have the dubious advantage (yay) of having been in 12-step programs for drugs and alcohol. I’m coming up on 11 years of sobriety so that’s been a rock for me, ie applying those principles with regard to porn. (This is not an endorsement for 12-step programs, just my experience.) But it’s up to him. He needs to search and find that window in himself and pull himself through it. God(or whatever) I hope this helps and I’m putting out positive feelings for you and your husband.