Midnightworries

Hi again, Thank you for your helpful response Confused and Lost. Ah you are seeing Paula so that must be very helpful. The lady I’ve found has worked with her in the past so I feel she’s fully equipped to dealing with the problem. I didn’t get back to you as I’ve been underground after cancelling the wedding. Needed to get away and not think for a bit. Well meaning friends keep asking after me but I just don’t want to chat about it with them. I hope your situation is improving? Are the therapy sessions helping? Wishing you happier times x

Hi Confused and Lost, thank you for your response to my post. I hate the feeling someone else is going through the same thing but at the same time it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Other half has booked into a therapist on Monday. I’m looking separately and will let you know if I find a useful contact. This afternoon more behaviour kept coming to light. Yet more phone calls and hours spent just dailing numbers in the small hours (with the hope someone will get back to him??? To what end? Two hours at a time -calling 17 different girls- am I being stupid? The calls last seconds, so does he heavy breathe and slam the phone down???) I thought he was fully recovered and wish I’d found out sooner. How the hell do you call off a wedding without pain and humiliation for years to come... it’s all so sad. My little one has been telling everyone about us getting married for months. I am in shock I think still.

Help. I was 7 months pregnant when I had D day and found a trail of dodgy sites and escorts on my partners iPad, in real time as he was out one night. I left him on the same day I picked up our new house keys to a property we’d just bought. He confessed eventually to 15 or so years of sex chat rooms and lengthy sessions involving 100’s of pounds. I went back to him after he confessed all to family members and started attending clinics. He had a complete lifestyle change including stopping going out. It was a good period post baby, of togetherness. Fast forward to him proposing a year ago and then his stag do last week. I thought something was up and checked his phone. He had a call back from a prostitute at 8 in the morning, and then I confronted him and over two days extracted more to the story-Clearly this relapse is a major red light. I’ve left him and now on the cusp- do I call off the wedding and save myself the heartache for a man who is a great dad but an absent lover/emotional partner who doesn’t really accept he has a problem. Or do I wise up and delay/postpone the wedding until he starts up therapy again. I can’t marry him like this, I can barely look him in his lying eyes at the moment. Exceptional timing as always and I can not believe I’m in this situation again of having to make a major life choice where the stakes are so high. Thanks for reading. Any help or acknowledgement would be gratefully revived.