Katie

Thank you for this response. its more the chatting to men about meeting etc. I just can't understand how that links to the addiction. There has to be a line somewhere. Surely.

Thank you so much for responding. I have listened and already understand much more about the reasons behind this addiction. The problem I have is that a lot of my time is quiet time because I am currently breastfeeding, which makes the concentration on another task hard (I don't always have a book etc to hand). Also, a lot of areas in my house become triggers because of where the photos weee taken/where he would go to do these secret things. All advice greatly appreciated.

I don't know who is out there and how to begin, or if I can even be helped but I am utterly lost. i have a bf with three beautiful children, who I was/am deeply in love with. I have just discovered he has been addicted to porn for years. Worse than that, he has been addicted to a gay dating site and been using it for attention. Putting up explicit photos of himself, in our home. Recieving messages from guys, etc. I have asked him if he is gay (the porn was gay too) and he promises he is not. He said that it was an extension of his porn addiction. I really don't know what to think. I want to help him. But I don't think I'm strong enough. I cannot sleep, eat and feel no joy. He has betrayed me. And every time I have a quiet moment all I see are the naked photos of him and messages from guys and I want to get myself. Its so hard to go about day to day life. Please help me.