Addicted to Porn and Webcams

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Hi all,

I really need help but don't have anyone else to seek help and sort from, I find myself spending most of my wages a month on webcams when I'm at the age that i need to be thinking about moving out and starting my own life,i also am in considerable debt (which I'm already seeking help for) because of my porn/webcam and masturbation addiction,i don't know what to do as i know i shouldn't be watching porn or webcams but i find myself bored and lonely which i think feeds my addiction but find it difficult to socialise with men or women. I really need help.

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Hello,

You're not alone.

Firstly, it is really good you are reaching out for help and wanting to change things. There is help out there and many other guys who suffer similarly. You sound quite out of control and things can be different in time. I can sympathise with the pain and sadness you must feel about this.

I found personally trying to fight this alone is very very hard - impossible. I would like to strongly encourage you to seek out some real life support groups and trusted friends where you can talk to other guys like yourself and me who can help you cut this out of your life and work towards building a better life you want without these behaviours. You are not defined by watching porn or cams - you are much more than that as a person. Places like SLAA offer a supportive and safe environment where you can talk about these things openly and get the tools to cope and transform over time. Paula also runs real life support groups which I have benefited from tremendously but they do cost money. Making that committment just to start and to go weekly to talk can make a big difference in just a few months.

Just by posting here you are showing a lot of courage in facing up to things and wanting to make a difference. That is really critical. You're doing a good thing for yourself. It's not easy but there is a better life waiting that you can build for yourself.

I'd also encourage you to read and educate yourself more on the problems of porn addiction. Gabe Deem has some great online resources and http://www.rebootnation.org has some good online forums (much more frequented than here). These are useful but no substitute for talking to real people. Getting over the shame and opening up can be extremely hard when you've kept this all to yourself for so many years but you can release it.

Peace.

 

 

 

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Hi RJ,

Great that you're speaking up about this. I'm struggling in a similar way only I'm only using the free sites. My therapist advised me to use real situations and my imagination as fuel for masturbation, rather than the internet. Perhaps this is something you could incorporate. As much as I wish I wasn't watching the free sites myself, I'm wondering if those sites might be better for you than the paid sites you're currently using. It would at least solve the money issue. But using things I've seen in, say, bars and clubs, is a step forward that has started to help me.

Keep fighting it!

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I am ashamed of the fact that I blew all my inheritance on porn and webcams - about 12,000 altogether...like you I really struggle and got myself into debt because of this habit of porn and masturbation, now I am married and it nearly cost me my marriage, my wife has forgiven me numerous times, I am thankful for this but I feel like a real jerk, I feel like It is taking her for granted, I don't mean to, to be honest I don't even think of her when I look at porn I just get sucked in to the fantasy, I say I'm not going to go there but then I seem to end up back in the same place again, full of gilt and shame, I do love my wife but I still feel the compulsion to look at porn, I know that is not loving her and I want to stop but I cannot seem to break out of this pattern of behaviour. To make matters worse I am a Christian and I know better, I feel more guilt and shame because I know this is not pleasing to God and it's not fair on my wife

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