dave42 Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 hi new here and im addicted to porn and swinger sites one in particular that i keep going back to time and time again i have meet a few people from these sites to enjoy times with and have been found out several times but i keep trying to stay away but i fail and relaspe everytime and i am a heavy porn addict now we are expecting our first child and i need to change and sort my self out ready for my child as my wife knows ive cheated and wants me to take the steps to sort my self out in both areas so i am looking to go to support meetings and do councilling if i can afford it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PatBatemanBlog Posted June 4, 2017 Report Share Posted June 4, 2017 My GP forwarded me to psychotherapy for porn addiction which was very helpful. I'd say that was a first step. It sounds like your partner wants you to get help, so I'd recommend starting there. If the first GP doesn't help, try another at the same surgery. I'd say be wary of SLAA and other support groups as they will probably force feed you Christian stuff, guilt trip you and will ignore science. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian Baker Posted June 13, 2017 Report Share Posted June 13, 2017 Hi Dave 42 you can donwnload the self help tool kit http://www.sexaddictionhelp.co.uk/index.php/component/content/category/19-kick-start-recoveryand there are a couple of books too which will relate to this. Look up SAA, or SA, or SLAA and see which groups exist in your area. but there are also on line groups too. Group work is wonderful to supporting recovery , especially for accountability , honesty and sharing.BWIan Paula Hall Associate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeduzor Posted June 18, 2017 Report Share Posted June 18, 2017 Hi Dave..Trying to be free from porn addiction on your own is not almost possible. First of all, make up your mind that you want to STOP pornography viewing... no matter how many times you fail, dust yourself up and GET UP! You should find someone you can be accountable to... Not your wife... someone you really respect. Your baby really needs you clean and sane...look around you for meetings and counseling. You can also read up on how porn addiction effects your life and causes,effects and remedies to porn addiction.I hope this helps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
George Posted September 3, 2017 Report Share Posted September 3, 2017 My GP forwarded me to psychotherapy for porn addiction which was very helpful. I'd say that was a first step. It sounds like your partner wants you to get help, so I'd recommend starting there. If the first GP doesn't help, try another at the same surgery. I'd say be wary of SLAA and other support groups as they will probably force feed you Christian stuff, guilt trip you and will ignore science.PatBatemanBlg, did you get psychotherapy through the NHS? How long did you have to wait? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tantalus Posted September 5, 2017 Report Share Posted September 5, 2017 Hi.My GP suggested I completed a self referral to a resource offered by my local NHS trust. They have a "website" for people living in the area. I filled in a self referral form and this was swiftly followed up with a telephone consultation. Based on my answers a referral to a psychiatrist and an appointment followed about a month later. I meet with them fairly regularly at my GP surgery, at a time I can hide fairly easily. The appointments offer "talking space" and that is pretty much all that has happened - it's given me someone to talk to in absolute confidence. I sometimes feel it is an abuse of NHS resources but I have a problem and need help.No one knows about it, save for my GP, who hasn't asked me about it since I made the original approach.I should say that I've not 'fessed up my addiction to pornography, but have spoken about other issues which are tied. I still haven't decided whether I should say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Mel Posted September 8, 2017 Report Share Posted September 8, 2017 What does that mean ? Ive also found myself going back to tge same site, initially to chat and just meet "likeminded individuals" but reality being I just kept putting myself in potentially dangerous situations that at the time are a quick fix but leave me feeling ashamed and disgusted with myself afterwards, I met my husband and finally put it to bed(pardon the pun) or so I thought, just got married and depression hitting me like a steam train physically my health taking its toll as well and I found myself back online, one man one meet one day, usualfeelings afterwards added to the most unbelievable and overwhelming sense of guilt, didn't stop he staying in and chatting but had set my mind I would not, could not meet with anyone again. Then my husband found stuff on computer and my very short marriage is over. I'm totally broken I know I have deep rooted issues, I've joked I'm addicted to sex when I was single but this actual realisation that I am addicted and it's so wrong has come as a huge shock to me, I took an overdose and now being referred to various different professionals, I'm terrified for my children and what they may or may not be aware of Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PJ Posted September 9, 2017 Report Share Posted September 9, 2017 Hi MelIt sounds like you are in quite a crisis. However the first step to getting over this is firstly to realise that you are addicted and the second step is hitting rock bottom - this sounds like it might be your rock bottom. The rock bottom is where you come to the point you will do anything to get free from this addiction. And that is what it needs. To get over this addiction you have to be totally, totally, honest with yourself and getting free from you addiction has to be more important than anything else in your life. More important than your marriage even - the logic being, if you don't, you won't have a marriage either.The question is what do you do now? It is good that you are getting referred to different professionals - I wonder if that is about your overdose rather than your addiction? There are various places you can get help.1. Twelve step programmes, like Sex Addicts Anonymous (http://saauk.info/en/) or Sexaholics Anonymous (https://www.sa.org) or Sex and Love Addicts anonymous (http://www.slaauk.org). I go to SAA and it works for me. The one note of wisdom though, groups vary, so if one doesn't work try another. On their websites, you can see which groups are mixed or single sex.2. Get some personal support from a friend or relative. I know that can be scary, but my experience is that friends really come through.3. Read up about Sex Addiction - Paula Hall's book is excellent. "Understanding and treating sex addiction".4. Personally what turned my life around was Paula's intensive recovery course - information on her website.There is hope - things are bad at the moment, but you can recover from this - many have and do. I am one.Best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharon1 Posted June 25, 2021 Report Share Posted June 25, 2021 The better question is why are you with him?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roshni Khanna Posted June 25, 2021 Report Share Posted June 25, 2021 Trying to be free from porn addiction on your own is almost impossible. Try to get busy most of the time, in free time spent your time with your wife and close ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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