Porn addiction

[Craig]

good evening all.

 

well I would like to put on here to see if anyone could help me.  

I started watching online porn when I was probably about 16 I'm now 32. I'm currently married but going through a divorce at the moment because I watched porn rather than having sex with my wife. 

I did this a lot of times and every time she found out I said no I haven't watched it or anything as I was embarrassed.

I just need some help on how to stop watching porn.

I also find it hard and embarrassing to talk about sensitive stuff when we have a discussion about things I find it hard to talk and tell her how I feel, my communication has always been really bad. 

I always have been in the past but I'm not very affectionate I don't know if that's anything to do with my parents as they were never affectionate towards each other and I always thought that was the way. 

Like I say I love my wife very much and I want to stop this divorce going through. 

I'm also moving out of the home and moving in with other people to sort out to see what we want.

I just need help on stopping watching porn and be more affectionate and able to communicate easily with the sensitive stuff with my wife 

[Paula Hall]

Hi Craig,

I'm so sorry to hear that porn has broken down your marriage -regrettably I hear many stories like this.  As I'm sure you know by  now, pornography can become an addiction and then it's often hard to stop through will power alone.  I would suggest that you need to get some professional help as soon as possible, and maybe, just maybe your wife will realise that you are serious this time.  In the meantime, do put porn blockers on all your devices and if you've not already done so, have a look at my self help resource at www.pornaddictionhelp.co.uk.  It may be too late for your marriage, but it's not too late for you.

[workinprogress]

Sorry to read your story, Craig. Must be pretty grim for you and your missus right now. Hopefully you can find a way to recover the relationship.

I echo everything Paula says and I hope you'll follow the advice. And please do it for yourself, rather than just to save your marriage. I was a married bloke who got caught in the middle of a porn and sex addiction. Trying to save my marriage was the initial trigger for action, but as I invested in the recovery process, I realised pretty quickly that kicking my porn habit was about saving myself. Good luck, mate.