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Help. I was 7 months pregnant when I had D day and found a trail of dodgy sites and escorts on my partners iPad, in real time as he was out one night. I left him on the same day I picked up our new house keys to a property we’d just bought. He confessed eventually to 15 or so years of sex chat rooms and lengthy sessions involving 100’s of pounds. I went back to him after he confessed all to family members and started attending clinics. He had a complete lifestyle change including stopping going out. It was a good period post baby, of togetherness. Fast forward to him proposing a year ago and then his stag do last week. I thought something was up and checked his phone. He had a call back from a prostitute at 8 in the morning, and then I confronted him and over two days extracted more to the story-Clearly this relapse is a major red light. I’ve left him and now on the cusp- do I call off the wedding and save myself the heartache for a man who is a great dad but an absent lover/emotional partner who doesn’t really accept he has a problem. Or do I wise up and delay/postpone the wedding until he starts up therapy again. I can’t marry him like this, I can barely look him in his lying eyes at the moment. Exceptional timing as always and I can not believe I’m in this situation again of having to make a major life choice where the stakes are so high. Thanks for reading. Any help or acknowledgement would be gratefully revived.