Search the Community

Hi We are 13 months post d day (the latest and biggest) after drip drip exposure for 4 years. Finding out it was sex addiction and porn addiction in Jan 2020. We are doing relatively 'well' hubby is in recovery. I'm doing well. I've done therapy and EMDR, been diagnosed ADHD and now medicated. Hubby has been doing therapy and disclosure work with his therapist. He is also being assessed for ADHD. He has not relapsed and no slip since July. It's been very slow and painful at times but his remorse is great. It's taken him time to stop lying, I THINK he has now. There is a definite change. We do evening check ins. We are building up our sex life slowly too. But I'm debating whether to do the disclosure now. Being taken back to that place. What did you get from it? Why did you do yours? Did it help or hinder? I know most of what happened, I think. But what if I don't? I'm feeling confused and was hoping for some clarity and other ways of looking at disclosure Thank you ❤️