Jane

Hi there. I clicked in to an email account two weeks ago, that my husband has been using for the past 3 years to message other women on Craigslist to meet for nsa sex and also discovered that he was connected to squirt.org a website for hook up s with other men. I confronted him with this and he denies ever meeting any of the people he has messaged, said he only linked in with men in chat rooms on squirt.org and that he's not gay or bisexual, but is addicted to porn. We are together 26 years with teenage children and have had a reasonably good sex life. I'm not sure I want to stay in the relationship as he also binge drinks quite regularly which also causes a lot of stress in our relationship. I am so tired of his ambivalence to my feelings and his lies and betrayal of my trust. I am heartbroken. He desperately wants to work on our marriage and is terrified I will put him out of our home. I really don't know what to do next. We are both now seeing separate counsellors which hopefully will help me come to a decision fon what to do for the best. I can't see him changing his behaviour for the long term.