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  1. pdw123 You sound like a resounding (a) to me. You need to applaud your efforts and WOW! you avoided that huge temptation, that is fantastic! You recognised that addict- side of you and kicked it in the arse! Keep going! You CAN do it!
  2. Joshua. Your posts are fantastic. Keep it up, you are an inspiration. I’m following you with such interest. 😊
  3. Victoria

    Recent discovery of partner’s sex addiction

    So, so sad. I’ve let my ex down. I couldn’t be there to support him. I just couldn’t. I had to put myself and my children (not his) first. I think of him regularly, whether he is in recovery or not. Our last messages, he said he wants to get better through SAA and that he hopes we can reconcile in the future. It broke my heart to ask him to stop messaging me. I know I’m not strong enough for that life. But I’ll always feel like I’ve let him down.
  4. My heart breaks for you. You are not naive and it’s nothing to do with your age. I’m 46 and have recently left my SA partner. The pain of being without them is unbearable but it does get easier. I know what’s right for me. Weigh up a future with him against a future without him maybe. He needs to take his addiction more seriously than everything. And you need to think of yourself, I’m not saying not to think of him, I know it’s heartbreaking watching someone you love struggle with their addiction and who they are, but you have to put yourself first. Thinking of you and I’m so sorry you need to be here xxx Vicky.
  5. Victoria

    In desperate need of experienced advice!

    Prue, I have joined the Facebook page recommended by Hanna (☺️) and it is such a wonderful support network. It has put me in touch with some wonderful ladies and we share and support each other. It’s been invaluable to me. xxx
  6. Victoria

    In desperate need of experienced advice!

    I gave my partner a second chance. He blew it and I’m glad it’s all over and I can move on. Yes it hurts, like hell at times. But I had to remove myself from more harms way. X
  7. Victoria

    Anyone now feel completely disconnected?

    Hi, I gradually felt disconnected from my husband in our marriage through the pain I felt. Eventually I left because I was able to, as my feelings had diminished considerably. That is not my sex addict partner. I didn’t have the power/strength to stay. But, if I had, I think the same would’ve happened. My mind seems to go into self protection mode, if that makes sense.
  8. Victoria

    Sex addiction and lack of empathy

    PJ, I think your posts are wonderful. You have empathy in abundance and have such a good soul. Your words are so good for people on here, from both sides. Keep it up, recognise and celebrate just how good you are and well you are doing. All the very best to you and your wife.
  9. Victoria

    Recent discovery of partner’s sex addiction

    Oh Vava, My partner also formed at least one relationship with another woman, I saw a Text where she felt that she’d been used. Yes, it’s more heartbreaking to me than the porn, sexts, hook ups with men. I’ve pondered over this a lot and that’s fuel for me sticking to my decision. We, all of us, have been betrayed so absolutely! 💔
  10. Victoria

    Recent discovery of partner’s sex addiction

    Hi Vava and Janey, Oh gosh. What a mess. At this moment in time I’m managing to remain strong and keep to my decision. I’m expecting a shift in this feeling because I’m no longer feeling angry, I’m feeling quite disconnected. I’m scared of what my emotions are going to do next. Unlike the two of you, I have no contact with him now. My choice, but I’m constantly thinking of him still. I honestly don’t know what he’s really going through or if he’s taking this as serious as necessary for a proper recovery. I’m in the dark. But I chose to be and it’s easier for me that way. I tried to remain in contact but that was something that felt so, so destructive to me. I’m very scared of being in contact for this very reason. He had his hooks in me so deeply and I can’t put myself through that again. This feeling I have at the moment feels complacent, detached, even good, but I’m worried that it’s temporary. I so hope it’s not. Vava, I think you need to realise whether or not your husband is committed. I also think you need to seek counselling to work out what it is you feel you can cope with in your future. x
  11. Victoria

    How do I get through this?

    Yes Angel. Look forward. You know the truth and so does he. We can do it! 😌
  12. Victoria

    Just discovered my husbands secrets

    Hi, Ive decided to not stay with my partner. Although the pain has been unbearable at my loss, I too feel a weight has been lifted. I no longer have to be scared, anxious and suspicious. Its not a loss actually, because what I thought we had was just a lie anyway. I have freedom, as scary as it is and I’m sad that I may never find the love of my life after all, not to mention falling for the wrong man again or not being able to trust the right man. I know however, that my decision is the right one for me and my children.
  13. Hello Prue, What a heartbreaking story. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Im guessing his anger is directed towards you because he loves you, but really he is angry at himself. He’s ashamed, embarrassed and disgusted with how he is and it sounds like he is heading towards rock bottom. I truly believe that he needs to reach rock bottom before he can fully address his issues. When that happens, I’m sure he will feel truly alone. This is when he will need you.
  14. Victoria

    Recent discovery of partner’s sex addiction

    Vava, I am almost out of words. I feel your pain. I’ll write more soon. Stay strong! Vicky.
  15. Victoria

    Recent discovery of partner’s sex addiction

    PJ, Thank you for such a candid answer. Thank you! I can feel my ex partner’s pain and suffering through your words. You have described him totally. I feel your pain too and I hurt for you too. You are one brave soul and your wife is another. I wish you all the strength you can both muster on your journey together and am hopeful that your collective strength grows and grows. You deserve this. With respect, Vicky.
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