Essex addict

Hi Yiksob, I know i have already posted most of what is below in my reply to your responce to me. But i thought i should add it in here too. Just in case someone else wants to comment on it. I read your post and my heat broke. I was brutally hard on my son when we discovered he had urges. I know, and me hidding my own addiction (pot kettle) Maybe he has inherited a faulty gene? i’m in no position to be offering advise...but... talk to your mum before she discovers it herself. Its easier to chat about it when everyone is calm rather then having to explain your actions when tempers are raised. good luck!!

Until i found this site, i just thought i was simply a dirty pervert. It took my wife catching me for me to realise that i needed help. i was under the false illusition that i was’nt ‘actually’ cheating as i was just chatting to strangers on-line. How wrong was i? She is devistated and i can barely look my wife in the eye. I can see the hurt in her face, it makes my shame and self hate worse. she took the kids out to give me some space and i have never felt more alone. I have probably lost my wife because i thought i could contol my addiction, thought i could keep it secret. She even asked me why i didnt tell her and talk to her about it. To be honest i would’nt have known how to even start that conversation. So ‘Help’ i know were you are coming from when you say you are afraid to tell your other half. To the wife of the addict i ask, do you have any advise on how to tell a wife you have a problem? I was always afraid that she would just kick me out as soon as i owned up. I am encouraged by what i read above and well done ‘Help’ you are getting there. PJ thank you for those links. I’ll be working my way through them this afternoon. Good luck everyone.

Hi Yiksob, thank you for your advice. I think you are right. I called another councilling service today but they dont deal with any forms of addiction. I read your post and my heat broke. I was brutally hard on my son when we discovered he had urges. I know, and me hidding my own addiction (pot kettle) Maybe he has inherited a faulty gene? i’m in no position to be offering advise...but... talk to your mum before she discovers it herself. Its easier to chat about it when everyone is calm rather then having to explain your actions when tempers are raised. good luck!!

I am 47 and tried to dismiss the fact that I have a problem. Now I’ve been found out and have lost everything. My marraige is over, my boys look both digusted and devastated. I will be moving out as soon a rental can be found. I feel ashamed, guilty, hate myself - i have destroyed everything i have sent the last 20 years building. All because i wanted to act out. My wife forgave me twice already, i have no right to ask for a third. I have hurt those closest to me. I’m not sure if i’m beyond help. Soon to be divorced!