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  2. So once again (4 days ago) i came across the social media accounts, chat logs, the ads on gay mens chatrooms looking for 'porn buddies', the intimate pictures he sharef and the history of porn sites on his mobile phone. It’s not the first time. I confronted him .... again, and again he tried to lie his way out of it. Eventually he admitted a fraction of what i had found ... its always the same process. The tears, the excuses, the promises. And then i find more. What hurts is the lies and the betrayal. Lies screaming in my ears. The comments that he made to other men and women and the intimate images he sent to them are etched into my brain, i see them every time i try to sleep. Im trying to focus on work, but that involves supporting vulnerable and abused women - including women who have been forced / trafficked into porn and prostitution. I have spoke to him so many times about the abuse these women experience, what that industry does to them, what men like him do to them, and still he does it. We have been married almost 5 years and it feels like it has all been a lie. I have tried to support him, but then he repeats the behaviour. I dont know what to do, i dont know what i should be feeling. I am numb. He has reconnected to SA and is reaching out for help. I cant help him. I am full of anger, hurt and despair. He wants my support but i dont know if i can go through this again, supporting him, forgiving him, brushing aside my own heartbreak. Building myself back up when i feel used, dirty, never quite good enough. We have no option but to live in the same house, but we are separated since this latest incident and i have said we need to stay separate for at least 6 months to give me time to sort out myself and my job, i cant afford to move out. He needs to focus on his recovery - without me. So i have to protect myself, everytime i see his phone in his hand, every day i am at work and he is home alone, every night when i go to sleep worrying that he is watching porn or chatting in forums. He wants me to trust him, but I don’t know how. I am scared.
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  4. Jermaine

    Some advice

    Hi all I'm a long time addict of porn addiction, my acting out has included chat sites porn sites etc, last week my wife discovered I had been online again viewing porn, she told me if it happened again we was finished, of course I'm devastated losing the women I love but I'm faced with the reality I need to recover. I've been an addict from the age of 11 I'm now 45, in the past I got into trouble with the police for my addiction, thankfully I didn't go to prison but I do have a record, I've recently rejoined Sexaholics Anonymous I was a member of them 6 years ago but drifted away thinking I was now in control, I'm hoping to start attending their meetings next week and start my 12 steps again, apart from the actions I've taken I was wondering if their was anymore advice you could suggest that would help in my recovery.
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  7. Pippa

    Pippa

    Hi PJ i haven’t challenged him again. Not yet anyway! I find it hard to believe because for many years there was no sex at home. He is a man and he he must have wanted sexual relief during those years. He suffered from ED on the odd occasions I approached him sexually. Of course I now know this was probably caused by porn use but he wouldn’t get help and he blamed me because of a brief affair I had 35 years earlier!!! on the very odd occasion sex did occur between us, it felt uncomfortable, a bit detached and quite aggressive. I didn’t have a clue why but now at least it all makes sense. last year he became very sick with a brain virus and he has not looked at a computer since. His mood for months was weird and we all thought this was due to his brain injury.... but of course I now believe this was withdrawal from porn, so that also makes sense now. Although he had some memory issues, he is recovering both from his encephalitis and his porn addiction so, much as I still need to know details, I don’t want to hamper his recovery. He has agreed to couples counselling and perhaps we can start again and maybe even have a healthy sex life at this late stage in our lives. The problem is finding a balance. I am still having sleepless nights and am still devastated by his secret life. I wish I had never discovered it in one way, but on the other hand a lot of what happened in the past now makes sense. i wrote a lot of questions down and we went through them together. But there are more so I might try writing the still unanswered questions and attempt this again. this is all so sad isn’t it. I feel that this last year has been the worst of my life. First his illness and now this dreadful discovery. So much for a happy retirement ☹️
  8. PJ

    Pippa

    Hi Pippa I am so sorry you have had this devastating news. Yes, that is very hard to believe. Not sure what more I can say - have you challenged him any more on this?
  9. PJ

    Not quite success, but a ray of hope

    Hi Outofwishes Sorry, glad you came back. What a story you have. The good news is that despite a very difficult time, you have risen to the challenge and you are sorting your life out. Whilst you now have a criminal history and excluded from certain areas of employment and voluntary work, the truth is that you can still live a full life. I hope you find your niche, something that gives you real satisfaction in life, enough income and total recovery from your addiction. Keep coming back from time to time, we would love to hear how you are getting on.
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  11. Pippa

    Husband a sex addict but with men

    I agree with Ruby in that I want to know everything rather than imagine it. Also to see who it is I am married to. I wrote four pages of questions down and let him read them first. Then we sat down and went through them one at a time. i didn’t get all the answers I wanted so there are still more. I think writing them down stops the anger to an extent so that the conversation is calmer and you are in control. I still have to find out exactly what my husband had watched. So far I know it involves Asian girls having sex. We lived in Asia for many years and the sex industry was always very much on our doorstep. When I ask for details he says he can’t remember. Sadly this may be true as he suffered a brain virus last summer which has affected his memory. But it may also be a good excuse and a way out for him. However, I need to keep asking the questions until I am happy that I know what I need to know. The worst thing for me is that I have been living in a sexless marriage for many years.... he blamed me because I had an affair 35 years ago! How sad is that? I was 30. look after yourselves girls. Xx
  12. Cowslip

    Pippa

    Hi Pippa. I am in a similar position to you - I have been married for more than 40 years. I was aware of my partner's interest in porn from when we first met as teenagers, but all the boys I knew were the same, so I really just dismissed it. There were several times early in our marriage when I asked him to get rid of magazines, and later videos, but I never checked that he did it (naively, I guess), and we never had a serious conversation about it. Things first came to a head when our children were young and we had our first big confrontation, when I insisted that all porn was removed from the house. He did not argue about this, and again, I just put the whole thing out of my mind (I wish I had known then what I know now!) Things changed a few years ago, when I realised that he was using the internet to look at porn, and that the material he was watching was much more extreme than I could have imagined. He was looking at anything and everything (luckily, nothing illegal - I say luckily, because I think he no longer had any idea of right and wrong when it came to porn). We had one big discussion, when he said he would stop, but 6 months later I found out he had relapsed. We are now nearly two years into recovery, and I hope, believe and trust that he is honest when he says he no longer looks at porn. We have had a huge number of discussions about this, and he has also said that often he was not aroused by what he saw. His explanation is that he searched for porn whenever he was angry, worried or frustrated by work, and that it just took his mind off his concerns and stopped him thinking about things. Like you, I asked why he didn't watch some sport or something similar, but he said that didn't occupy his mind the way that porn did. He needed the extreme images to fill his mind and stop him thinking. We have worked hard to find alternative activities he can use when he feels stressed, so that he doesn't turn back to porn. He works from home, and is often away on business for several days at a time, so I have had to learn to trust him (which has not been easy, and which still causes me sleepless nights and many tears). This is an awful thing to be facing after so many years, and my heart goes out to you and to all other women dealing with this terrible experience.
  13. May

    How to improve communication?

    Thanks Pippa. I agree with what you're saying. I hope your couples counselling goes well. I don't think my partner's against the idea, he just wants me to get individual counselling with someone who's an expert in this stuff first, to work through what I'm feeling, which I'm looking into. This does frustrate me though as it makes me feel like I'm the only one working on "recovering" the relationship. He is focussed on his own therapy for the addiction, which is great and obviously crucial, but I want him to see that I can't be the only one making efforts to work on the relationship (e.g. setting boundaries, working on effective communication). And I feel like as long as we keep living together and stay in the relationship day to day, this stuff can't really be on hold. I imagine this is probably typical of partners' experiences, and I'd be interested to hear others' thoughts on this. I think I need to get him to read some of the chapters in Paula's book for partners!
  14. Pippa

    How to improve communication?

    Hi May. These conversations are very emotional and difficult. I am in a similar position but fortunately my husbsnd had agreed to come to couples counselling . I think having someone facilitate will give you and you partner the opportunity to talk and ask questions without getting angry. I will let you know if it helps after our first session at the end of this month. Good luck with yours.
  15. Ruby

    Husband a sex addict but with men

    Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m beginning to realise I’m not alone in this horror and I’m so saddened to hear of others experiences. You sound incredibly strong and brave and I only hope I can get there. I need the disclosure to know that there is no more to the horror of all this. I appreciate what you’re saying and understand it. Maybe I’ll feel like that in time but now his refusal to share and answer my questions is just pushing me farther away from him as I wonder what else he’s done and what sort of a person I’m really married to.
  16. Pippa

    Pippa

    I have recently uncovered my husbands addiction to porn. He is 68 and we’ve been married for 45 years. It seems that for 20 of those he led his secret life. i won’t go on about how I’m feeling as you all must know. Todsy I asked him many questions and one his answers just doesn’t fit. He says he was never aroused while watching and he never masterbated as far as he can remember?????? Is this possible and, if one is not aroused by the images, why would one watch it secretly for 30 years? why not watch a snooker match instead? Any thoughts on this???
  17. Cowslip

    Husband a sex addict but with men

    Hello Ruby. I am not in the same position as you, and can only begin to imagine what you must be going through, but I thought sharing my experience may be helpful for you. I discovered just over three years ago that my partner's interest in porn (which I had known about since we were first together as teenagers) had grown to the point where it was an addiction. I also found out that many of the sites he was visiting involved gay porn, violence and incest. We have been together for more than 40 years, and I would never have believed that he would find any of those things appealing or arousing. As I say, this is quite different to finding out that your partner has been meeting men. But I have spent a lot of time thinking about how much I need or want to know about my partner's addiction, and you might find that useful. Vava is right that once your partner has told you something, you're stuck wth it, and you have to find a way of living with that knowledge. It is also true that (in my case at least) the things you imagine can be worse than the reality. What worked for me was: 1. To take my time and to think clearly and as calmly as possible about what I needed to know in order to feel safe and in control. I tried to make it about information I needed, and not about making him suffer by having to 'reveal all' (although that was a tempting thought). 2. When I decided there was something I needed to ask my partner, I rehearsed what I wanted to ask, and chose a time when I felt strong enough to have the conversation (I tried not to ask difficult questions when I was upset or tired or just plain pissed off with the whole situation). 3. I gave myself time to think about his answers - if they didn't ring true, or if I felt or thought he was dodging a question, or fudging the truth, then I asked again and again until I thought I'd got a genuine answer. Often his answers made me uncontrollably angry or incredibly sad, but I always tried to walk away from him to process all of that on my own. Early on, I decided that I had the right to honest answers to all my questions, and that our marriage would not survive if I didn't get that honesty. 4. If you can, find someone to talk to about what your partner tells you - maybe a counsellor, or a very close and trusted friend. We have all found ourselves in an incredibly lonely place and it is easy to end up replaying every conversation and every disclosure over and over again in your head until you can't think about anything else. I found I needed to get it out of my head, either by talking to someone else, or sometimes just be writing it all down. I also agree with Vava that it just isn't possible to 'stop looking backwards' - we can't rewrite the past, so we have to find a way of living with it. That's a tough one, and one I am still struggling with. But many people are able to move on and rebuild their relationship together (if that's what you decide to do); others decide to call it a day and move on alone. My partner and I have stayed together, and I am (after three years) beginning to feel confident and in control again. It took a lot of tears and a lot of misery, but we are getting there! Whatever you decide to do, I wish you well. Stay strong!
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  19. Ruby

    Husband a sex addict but with men

    Thank you very much Vava for your kind words. How did you decide what was right to know and what wasn't? I am feeling that having little ort no knowledge is killing me. I imagine so much and feel even more anxious when he refuses to talk more. How long have you been trying to recover as it were?
  20. Vava

    Husband a sex addict but with men

    Oh Ruby, dear! Your situation sounds so very painful and i am so sorry to hear you have been hit with such horrendous discovery. Although my husband has been acting out with women I know that at least on two occasions there was another man present as well. He says it was only to observe his performance.... (I feel sick!) It is impossible for my brain to digest it and I have stopped trying to do that. All I need to know is that he has a problem, that he acknowledges he has a problem and that he is actively working on recovery. One thing I can not recommend strongly enough is to be careful what questions you are asking because once you know that information, you are suck with it and it can be much more damaging than useful. I now truly regret knowing some things. And I understand that in the beginning you are just hurting so much that you think nothing else will hurt me more, i just need to know... Therapeutic disclosure might be the least damaging way for you to have answers to your questions. As for 'not looking backwards' bit, it makes me so angry!! My husband often says that, 'why cant we just move forward?, why cant you stop looking back?'. And I feel like screaming 'Why couldn't you stop for all those years? Why coudn't you!!!' You are not alone Rudy, sadly there are many beautiful, successful, once joyful and happy women whose lifes has been torn apart by sex addiction. Take care of yourself, do what is right for you, take one day at the time. It's a long journey to recovery but there is a recovery. Love and hugs.
  21. How and where do you begin to even comprehend the horror and utter devastation of finding out the man you've been with for 20 years has been having encounters with men during all of that time? I have never ever written on a forum before but I am in so much pain - or at least swinging between pain and intense anger - that I am hoping someone can understand a little of what I am going through. I guess I'm reaching out to ask, has this happened to anyone else and how di/are you coping? I had absolutely no idea he was doing this and he did not suddenly confess. It gets worse.....one of our children saw an app called Grindr I think, on his phone and confronted me about it. I didn't even know what it was never mind why it was on his phone! Needless to say they are now reeling as much as I am although I haven't actually confirmed what he has been doing to them. I don't have the words and don't believe they deserve to have the burden of knowing they have a father that has done this. He is having counselling and his counsellor told him to recommend to me I read books about being a partner of a sex addict. That was another blow because when it first came to light what he'd been doing he said it was related to a very short spell of childhood abuse and what the male abuser had instilled into him. He says its only ever been masturbation with other men.....not sure whether that's supposed to make me feel better or not. I've read a couple of very good books for partners of sex addicts but many seem to feature men who are addicted to sex with other women or look at pornography involving women. Now my husband refuses to talk any more about it. He claims his counsellor has told him that further disclosure will only hurt me even more and its time to move ahead. His counselling seems to be focussing on the trauma caused by the abuse which I appreciate is much needed and very good for him. However I cant even begin to think about 'moving ahead' until I know all of what he did. I feel as if I am on shifting sands, a place of dark shadows where every tiny shred of new information sets me right back - I've already realised he's told me one or two lies during the very basic disclosure he did give. We see to be at an impasse. He wont talk any more about it and says we should focus on rebuilding the marriage and not look backwards as its destructive. I cant move forwards when there is still so much I need to know before I can even think about forgiving him or trusting him
  22. Anakin

    Polygraph Test Concerns

    Thank you for responding to my post Christine. There had been no therapeutic disclosure prior to the test. My husband took the test following a suggestion from a professional involved as he refused to acknowledge he had engaged in so called “affairs” He undertook the test saying it was not foolproof and belittled the process. He was ready for a “guilty” outcome but taking the test “proved” he was telling the truth as Why would he do it otherwise! He was ready to say the tests were “rubbish” (he cited many articles that had little or no confidence in the tests). He read articles about “how to cheat” the tests (I saw them downloaded on the computer) but he denied this to the “examiner” - I heard the denial. His face lit up when the outcome was that he was telling the “truth” (about the “affairs” - questions had been structured specifically around this topic) and since that time the polygraph tests are “infallible” according to him! Before hearing this outcome the examiner said he needed to discuss the test findings with a colleague and we would hear back the next day. However barely an hour had passed when the examiner phoned me to say of the outcome and that he had pulled over onto the roadside and spoke to a colleague on the phone to discuss the test outcome prior to phoning me. The test was undertaken by an organisation that is recommended by Paula Hall I know ( sorry I have forgotten the name of it). Following on from that all communications from them were to my husband and not to me. This was almost 3 years ago and separate from this event my husband asked to return and he started to work on his sa with professionals and by attending saa re 12steps. At the time I said I would support him but I would never say that he had not engaged in “relationships” - he actually acknowledged (tentatively) that this had been the case and that he bought presents and gifts for the people he saw (grooming?) There were some noticeable changes in how my husband approached his sa problem. He would talk about issues past and present (without giving too much specific info!) but mainly he was nice, kind and respectful towards me. On the whole we didn’t have too bad a time though upsets occurred from time to time as to be expected. My husband mainly accepted responsibility for the problems as they had been caused by his sa. Sadly his old ways have returned with a vengeance. He is nasty, blaming and angry again. He said fairly recently that “if you are waiting for me to change” (ie recovery wise) “it isn’t going to happen” The old crazy making tactics have returned eg he said I am a fantasist and I am deluded. He said he is not able to live with me now unless I say the so called affair (the Polygraph test one) never happened and he has left the home full of resentment towards me. I cannot say it never happened as apart from the things I picked up there is the photograph. He recently said I had “photoshopped” his hand on to the woman’s shoulder.! He doesn’t respond when I say - so a woman has decided to have as her Twitter and Instagram profile picture one that is showing a random man’s hand on her shoulder that has been photoshopped 🤣 he just ignores me! So on the basis of me not saying he had nothing to do with this woman (nearly three years later) he is living an isolated and lonely life without any contact with the family! I know this is all because he is acting outagain big style again but he is in denial - hence I was wrong about this woman and I am wrong again about his behaviour now. It is uncanny in how he presents as the person he was before. It is like the devil is speaking through his brain - another person. How is one supposed to react to this incredibly weird and crazy situation? I accept he is not a well man and the shame he feels drives him to such really quite outrageous and self destructive behaviour and getting towards the end of his life too!
  23. I'll start by giving you the context (and try to be brief!) I found out five weeks ago that my partner of two years has a sex addiction that has included behaviours over the last ten years of watching porn, paying for live interactions with people over web cams and visiting escorts for sex (at least I'm told this is everything). I've made no decisions to stay, go, commit or otherwise at this stage as I recognise I'm feeling traumatised and need time to process how I feel, however easy a solution breaking up seems sometimes. So we're still living together while we try and get through the days. He has fully admitted he has a problem, has started intensive therapy sessions to get to the root causes, and I've been having some generic counselling sessions to help me vent my feelings. Typically we have always been very good at communicating, understanding in times of conflict, learning from each other and compromising. In fact, it's one of the things I have valued the most about our relationship and I had thought that if our relationship was to survive, that would probably be an important factor in it. However this week I feel like our communication has really broken down. There was a near-relapse, then contact with an ex-girlfriend who he knew I wasn't comfortable with him speaking to because I discovered loads of naked pictures of her and another ex on his laptop, and on reading their WhatsApp conversations last month I noticed he once told her that I was jealous because they still talked (not true, perhaps insecure, and have no idea why he felt the need to tell her that). When trying to discuss how much the ex thing has upset me, we've both been tired, stressed, I've been very upset and found it difficult to stay calm, and he has started to become defensive and tried to excuse his behaviour, in no way acknowledging why this is such a betrayal for me, even if on the surface it seems fairly innocent. Whether or not we can get past this incident, I'm worried more generally that we're losing our ability to communicate well and wondered if anyone had any suggestions for improving communication in times of high emotion? I'm also wondering whether couples counselling would help. Thanks.
  24. Thank you Eliza. Things are still pretty chaotic for us but myself and the kids are safe and hopefully due to move into a new house shortly. Although i really resent having to do it, we are gradually beginning to build a new life for ourselves ... although i have many days where i can barely find the energy to even get through the school run! My now ex partner still seems to be finding it impossible to take any responsibility for what he's done and is firmly in denial as far as I can tell. His strategy seems to be to keep his head down whilst hoping the rest of us 'get over it'. For his own sake I hope he does hit rock bottom at some point as he certainly doesnt seem to have found any incentive to change :( My own therapist suspects narcissism but i don't know if that's it or not. I've chosen to walk away as i eventually realised he's just not capable of giving myself or the children any of the support or understanding we need and am instead concentrating on my recovery now. I'm really glad to hear things are heading in the right direction for you. As you say, who knows what the future holds but if you can see a change in your husband that must at least be something to hold on to. Still hoping mine gets there one day so he can at least have a good relationship with his children. Xxxx
  25. Kat, I know it's a few months on but I haven't been on this forum for a while. Came on and saw your post and my heart went out to you, what a horrible way to find out :( I just wanted to ask how things are and let you know that I'm here if you'd like to talk or need any support. The thing that stood out for me was regarding his behaviour of being apologetic one minute and then blaming you the next - that is classic addict behaviour, deflecting the blame onto others. When my husband was in the thick of it (as I know now), he lied to me about something and then when I didn't believe him we would have a huge argument and he would make out like I was awful and give me a massive guilt trip. Then all of a sudden would be saying he forgives me. They will do anything in order to not face what they have done. I really hope that you and your children are ok. It's a difficult situation to be in, but even more so when there are young children involved. I found out when my daughter was 1 and a half, she is just over 2 now and I am still with my husband - but only because he, like PJ said, hit rock bottom, admitted everything (eventually!) and started going to a 12 step group. And I can see the changes in him. But it's going to be a long road before I trust him again, and I still can't say for certain what the future holds. Hang in there xxx
  26. Hello, Welcome here. I didn't watch the video but the topic of masturbation is an interesting one. Often guys on reboot forums will encourage a period of abstinence after you've decided to be free of porn. In my experience, this can help decouple the body's natural physical urges from the purely mental/emotional and dopamine based urges. For me, these two became totally cross wired when I was a porn user and it is near impossible to tell them apart without a lot of improvement of your self-awareness. That is why guys like Bean will say they have a massive high sex drive - actually what is going on is they have a massive high urge to use porn which is something very different. I used porn long enough that I honestly had no idea what my real sex drive was and it took me a lot of clean time to work that out. It gets very very confused. So I definitely don't want to discourage you because I think there are many valuable lessons to be learned about yourself from this. However one thing I disagree with is the notion of needing massive willpower. This is a a big fallacy in my experience and does not work for several important reasons. This approach of The Willpower Method is what nearly everyone tries when they first encounter this problem. I did, most do. The basic approach goes something like this: if I can hold out long enough then the desire to use porn will go away. But you are fighting with an addiction here. It is rather like saying, if I can hold my breath long enough then the desire to breathe will go away. No it doesn't, you would just pass out even if you could. And the same thing happens if you use this method with porn. It creates a sense of deprivation and because of that is doomed to failure. If you believe you are still getting something - anything at all - out of the porn, then why deny yourself? So The Willpower Method itself is like saying, "I will deny myself this (precious) thing porn I crave and if I am strong enough, then I will be cured." But how do you know your willpower holds? Only when it doesn't. So you're going to be strong willed for what? A week? A month? A year? Keeping on denying yourself the porn you still remember as being so much fun or giving you some benefit... ? What do you think non-porn users do (people who have never had our problem)? They sit there all day thinking "I must not look at porn today... I must have more willpower"??? No. They get on with their lives, and you will too. This is why I think The Willpower Method does not work - it reinforces the sense of denial and deprivation strongly, because part of you still feels entitled. The mental brainwashing is still firmly in place. Or worse, I would go around moping and being irritable or miserable because I "can't" use porn (says who?), which usually leads to more stress, confrontation and back to porn again. It is the pathway to failure. I speak from experience. InsteadI would encourage you to explore your addiction more. By any and all means necessary. Really look hard and detailed at what you do when you use porn and why. This may take you weeks or months but this is really where you are best off investigating your willpower. I would not even necessarily tell you to stop using before then but it is good if you can. The main thing here is look at every single possible "positive" thing you think you get from porn and then destroy that reason, research it, learn, find alternatives - whatever you need to reverse all that brainwashing. Read more books, websites, do therapy etc. Only when you have destroyed and annihilated every reason to use porn will the desire be gone. Then you can accept it is doing absolutely nothing whatsoever for you, and instead celebrate and rejoice every single beautiful day of your life where you are no longer punishing yourself with this self-inflicted slavery to porn and masturbation. Peace
  27. Christine

    Polygraph Test Concerns

    To be able to respond to your concern I would need to know more about the type of test your husband did and also whether this also involved a therapeutic disclosure. I would not suggest a polygraph without the couple firstly undertaking a therapeutic disclosure.
  28. Christine

    Sexy images

    Millie Perhaps you could share with him why this is hurting you and ask him if he will stop because it is causing you hurt. I wonder how he would feel if you were doing the same but with men? The question to ask is why is he doing this when it is causing harm to his relationship and to you. Is this something he would be willing to stop if he knows it is hurting you.
  29. I cant do nofap if i go more than like 4 days without ejaculating my sex drive is just too high and the chance of relapsing to p is significantly increased
  30. Do you think we need to give up masturbation completely or do we need to just break the link between masturbation and porn?
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